When I was a young chap, there was no order. My birthmother was 23 when she had me, her 7th child (She would go on to have 2 more). She started having babies while she was still a teenager and never was able to grow up. She also never had a husband, only donors. This resulted in a childhood that was challenging to say the least.
I had many opportunities to improve on my generational chain as I became a parent. Out of them all, the one that seemed to resonate most was being there for my children. Sports, school events, birthday parties, etc. I wanted to be present as a parent because that is probably what I missed the most as a child.
I followed through on my promise to myself and coached all of their teams, went to all of their school and sports functions, and supported them in everything they did and made sure they knew that I loved them. It was quite healing for me and I can honestly say that I broke the dysfunctional chain that was my experience, at least with this one dysfunction. While my children are still becoming adults, they display wonderful attributes that are the fruit of my labor.
Upon reflecting on this accomplishment, I wondered what the percentage is for success on breaking the generational chain for major dysfunctions in families? Whether that be poverty, abuse, alcoholism, etc. I wonder what the percentage is for those who succeed in breaking the chain vs those who go on to repeat the behavior?
Out of my siblings, 4 broke the generational chain, 2 repeated the behaviors (3 passed away at an early age). So for our family (counting only 6) it was 66% that broke the generational change, 33% repeated the behavior. I would be curious to hear about your experiences with this. Feel free to report in the comments!